During my wedding last August, I ended my personal vows to my groom by promising that I would always dream with him. I truly believe (as I’m sure most wives do) that there is nothing my husband and I cannot accomplish together, and we take the time to deliberately discuss the things we aspire to achieve, both as a family and individually. We try our hardest to be what I like to call a goal digging couple.
Urban Dictionary defines a “goal digger” as someone who “desires wealth in all areas of life, seeks the secrets of the millionaire mind, and has the smarts, optimism, integrity, and passion to do it themselves.” Goal digging couples have an advantage in that they too desire wealth in all areas of life, but they are not in it alone. Setting goals together helps couples to fortify their relationships, improves communication by giving each person a chance to openly discuss not only his or her personal dreams, but also the vision he or she has for their marriage and family, heightens motivation by allowing each person to hold the other accountable, and provides satisfaction and reason to celebrate when goals are accomplished. I’m a firm believer that couples should celebrate everything (Tristian Coopersmith; www.sheknows.com). Whether aspirations involve career, spirituality, finances, sexuality, health and fitness, relationship, travel, charity, or family, it is important to take the time to discuss them with your spouse and plan them jointly in order to enhance intimacy. Being willing to share your dreams and ambitions with another person takes trust. Being willing to involve that person in the very development of these goals takes that trust to a whole-nother level.
In one of my public relations courses in college, I learned about the importance of setting SMART goals. SMART goals are Significant, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Based. Couples should make sure that each goal passes the SMART test and prioritize which goals will be given the most amount of immediate attention. It’s important to write them down (I utilize the notes app on my phone) and discuss a specific action-plan for how they will be achieved together, while also remaining flexible and realizing that certain goals may require reevaluation and modification.
My husband and I stayed up late one night a few months ago in Italy talking about where we saw ourselves as individuals and as a couple over the next few years and what we hoped to accomplish. This conversation reconfirmed for each of us why we fell in love in the first place, showed us that we are still on the same page in what we want our of life, and got us back on track. Some of the goals we set were as follows:
- Have a set amount of money in our savings account by May 2016.
- Launch the JetJones Foundation, a non-profit organization co-founded by my husband and I that provides resources to kids in order to help them reach their full potential and successfully execute and host our inaugural event by August 2015.
- Travel to all 7 continents before my 30th birthday
Although these are by no means all of our goals and a lot of them are still works in progress, we revisit them frequently and are active in ensuring that they are accomplished.
I am very proud to share that we achieved one of our goals. This goal is near and dear to our hearts as we first discussed the possibility when we first started dating in college back in (year). We officially launched the JetJones Foundation and hosted our inaugural event, the First Annual JetJones Foundation Party for a Purpose in July 2015. While the best is yet to come for our foundation and we still have quite a lot of work to do, it reaffirmed my belief that there is nothing we can’t accomplish together. In true “celebrate everything” fashion, we celebrated our achievement with a trip to the Grand Cayman Islands.
I live for exploring different destinations and delving into what different cultures have to offer with my husband by my side, so it was only right that we added Travel to our goal list.
I think it’s so important that couples get out of their comfort zones and try new things, and what better way to do this that by traveling to somewhere you’ve never been with the person you love the most. If travel is one of your goals, you have to make it a priority just like you would finding a new job or purchasing a home.
The first step in seeing your jet setting dreams come to fruition is making a travel bucket list. This can be a vision board or just a literal list of destinations, but make sure it’s hung somewhere where you and your mate will see it daily. This will serve as a daily reminder and keep you motivated.
The second step is to launch a savings plan that you are both willing to stick to. The biggest reason I hear for why people don’t travel is due to a lack of finances. One idea I like is creating a travel savings jar. If you and you’re significant other commit to each putting $50 in the jar at the end of every week, after a year, you will have more than $5000 that you can use for the trip of your dreams. Cut out those daily Starbuck’s runs and really commit to saving for travel. Set a savings goal and stick to it. You will be surprised at how much you can save!
The final step is the fun part – actually plan your trip! Fly Duos is your destination for the ultimate planning guides for baecations you will never forget! Once you’ve planned the trip, all you have to do is go, enjoy yourself, and cross that travel goal off of your list. I’m looking forward to exploring the world with my husband and I’m so glad we made travel a priority. We have 4 more continents to go and 4 more years to accomplish our goal, so we are well on our way!
Do your goals include travel? We would love to hear how you’re making your travel goals come to life! Snap a picture of you and your mate working on your goals or share your top 3 goals that you are working on as a couple below in the comment sections.